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Common misconceptions about narcissism and codependency
It is always important to remember that someone with narcissistic tendencies and a full-blown narcissist are not the same thing. Narcissism exists on a spectrum. While some of the above list could feel like red flags, it is important to be able to distinguish the difference between healthy and unhealthy or relational and nonrelational behavior.
The most surprising thing about codependency
When you think about the fact that codependency develops as a way to protect yourself in a situation that your body felt was unsafe, it really takes away the shame and stigma of the word.
It could have been worse- so why am I struggling so much?
A lot of times those who experience little t trauma feel like what happened in their life could have been much worse, leading them to think “why am I struggling so much, my childhood was good, I never had anything major happen to me?”
Surprise…narcissists prefer boundary-less relationships
There are internal and external boundaries that can be helpful to keep in mind when dealing with the narcissists in your life or trying to set boundaries with a narcissist in general.
Domestic Violence isn’t only what you think…
Domestic abuse can show up in a number of ways that are all equally as damaging. Here are the 3 main types of domestic abuse explained.
5 Key Principles to healing after infidelity
Infidelity isn’t a death sentence to a relationship. Despite what is popularly touted in social circles. In fact, 57% of couples stay together post infidelity. The number one thing needed to heal from infidelity is that the partner who strayed from the relationship actually wants the marriage.
Understanding your inner child
Your inner child is the innocent, vulnerable, loving, expansive part of you that is damaged in one way or another by events in your childhood. Your inner child learns to adapt, protect and guard against future damage or negative events.
Why infidelity is never your fault.
‘What could I have done differently so that my partner would love me enough to be faithful?’ We know this is the ugly truth of infidelity. But we also know that infidelity is never your fault
Our Guide to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist
Our bodies automatically remember what felt dangerous in the past in order to help keep us safe in the present. We wanted to help you better understand narcissism and how to set boundaries with the narcissist in your life